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Carole Doris Haje

Carole Doris Haje

July 30, 1945 ~ March 07, 2022

Carole Doris Haje passed away on March 7, 2022 at her home in Jupiter, Florida, surrounded in love by her family. She was 76 years old.

Born Carole Doris Jankowski on July 30, 1945 in Queens NY, she was the first child of Edward S. and Doris H. Jankowski. Carole attended Richmond Hill High School in Queens, NY, graduating fourth in her class in 1963. She then attended Queens College City University of New York, where she studied Home Economics/Nutrition and graduated in 1967. She received her master’s degree from Stony Brook University in order to pursue a career in dietetics.

She met Roy L. Haje at Queens College and they were married on May 26, 1968. They raised their four children, Edward (born 1972), Joanna (46), Victoria (44), and Alexander (36) on Long Island, settling in South Setauket, NY.

Carole worked most of her career at St. Catherine of Siena Medical Center as a dietician in Smithtown, NY until retiring as Assistant Director for Nutrition in 2011. Since retiring, Roy and Carole split their time between homes in Jupiter, FL and Southampton, NY.

Carole was an active volunteer after retiring, including at Southampton Hospital and Jupiter Medical Center. She enjoyed interacting with patients, especially expecting mothers, to guide them in their health and dietary decisions.

In her personal time, Carole loved gardening and had a beautiful garden in their backyard in Southampton. She adored cats (even mischievous ones) and enjoyed feeding birds. She was known as a meticulous planner which was evident in her detailed weekly meal plans and excursion and vacation agendas. She loved visiting the beaches in Southampton and was a frequent visitor to the many art galleries and shows in both the Hamptons and in Jupiter.

Carole was predeceased by her son, Edward A. Haje, her mother, Doris H. Jankowski, and her father, Edward S. Jankowski. She is survived by her loving husband of 53 years, Roy L. Haje of Southampton NY and Jupiter, FL; her daughter Joanna Swanson and her son-in-law Paul Swanson of Rolling Hills Estates, CA; her daughter Victoria Behr, her son-in-law Matthew Behr and her two granddaughters, Eleanor and Juliette, of Haddonfield, NJ; her son Alexander Haje, his wife Mae Haje, and her granddaughter, Isabella, of Palm Beach Gardens, FL; her sister, Joan McGinn, and her brother-in-law Philip McGinn of Redding, CT; and her niece and nephews.

A ceremony in honor of Carole’s life will be held on Saturday, March 19, 2022 at 11:00 am at Holy Spirit Lutheran Church, 13301 Ellison Wilson Road, Juno Beach, FL 33408.

A celebration of Carole’s life, and the interment of her ashes at Calverton National Cemetery in Wading River, NY, next to her son Edward, will be held at a later date.

In lieu of flowers, the family is requesting donations be made to the Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation (https://themmrf.org/).


Linda Unger - cousin

March 9, 2022, 4:17 pm

Sorry to hear Carol is in Heaven now..May God give cofort and strength…She will always be in your heart, memories are there forever
Linda Marie

Jo-Ann and Tom Davino - Friend

March 9, 2022, 5:49 pm

Tom and I offer our sincere condolences on the passing of our friend and longtime neighbor. Carole was the kindest woman you could ever meet. She was fun to be with at our many neighborhood parties and always ready to help when needed. She will be remembered always. May she Rest In Peace and know the joy of being reunited with her son Edward.

Gertrude LeVerrier - Friend

March 9, 2022, 5:59 pm

God bless the entire Haje family. She made the world a better place with her smile.

Trudy LeVerrier

Florence and George Euler - Friends

March 9, 2022, 9:06 pm

Florence Euler – Friend
March 9, 2022, 3:45 pm

There are no words to express my sorrow over the loss of my dear friend of 66 years. We shared many good times and some very sad times.
Her family is my family. My husband George and I send our love and prayers to them and hope they take comfort in knowing that Carole is now in Heaven with her dear son, our godson, Edward. Our lives are richer for having known and loved her. Rest in peace, beloved friend.

Debra Weeks - Friend

March 9, 2022, 9:30 pm

So sorry to hear of Carole’s passing. I enjoyed her when we were in several small groups at Holy Spirit. She had a great smile and laugh.

Peggy and Al Melzer - Friend

March 9, 2022, 10:31 pm

Al and I send our condolences on the passing of our former neighbor and longtime friend. Carole’s presence will be missed by all who came in contact with her. We’ve known Carole for 50 years and we will truly miss her cooking recipes, laughter and bright smile at our gatherings. May she finally be out of pain and rejoicing in being reunited with her son Edward.

Kelly Bunce - Friend

March 9, 2022, 11:22 pm

Sorry to hear of her passing, so many amazing memories of Tulip Hill Lane growing up. Sending you and your family lots of love and strength.

Sabine Wolf, Schriever - Friend

March 10, 2022, 8:21 am

We are so sorry to hear that Carole passed away. Our thoughts are with Roy and her children. We know here for over 35 year when Edward and Sascha did the school exchange. And we had such a good time when Carole and Roy visited Germany and we met in Frankfurt. All our best wishes and for your family in this sad and crazy world,kind regards from the Schriever and Wolf family s

Stu and Judy Kornreich - Friend

March 10, 2022, 1:05 pm

Judy and I send our most sincere condolences on the passing of our long time friend Carole. She fought a good fight and is hopefully now in a better place.

Rhonda Krill - Friend

March 10, 2022, 2:19 pm

I have so many sweet memories of Carole. She was a steadfast member of my Bible study and had so much great insight to share with all of us. Loved that lady. My heart goes out to the family for the angel they lost. We’ll see her again.

Frank Vetti - Friends from church

March 10, 2022, 3:33 pm

Barbara and I want to express our deep sorrow at the loss of Carole. She was a wonderful person and we will truly miss her. May God bless you, Roy, and your family.
Frank and Barbara Vetti

Kirt Danielson - Friend

March 10, 2022, 4:40 pm

May the grief, sorrow and mourning that Carole’s family and loved ones are feeling be softened by the knowledge that Carole is resting in the loving arms of Christ her savior and redeemer.

Laurel Cavallaro - Friend

March 10, 2022, 5:02 pm

So sad to hear about Carole’s passing. Sincerest condolences to Roy & family.
She will be missed by many.

Marjorie Mandia - FRIEND

March 10, 2022, 5:13 pm

Jim and Marge Mandia

We were so sorry to hear of Carole’s passing. She was such a wonderful kind person and will be missed by many.

Diane Falco - Friend

March 11, 2022, 1:11 am

I have so many deep, rich memories of Carole. We met in Kindergarten and were in the same classes for all our Elementary and High School years…we even went to Queens College together. Even though we chose different career paths Carole ALWAYS had time to help me with my nemesis class.. chemistry…she was a brilliant, gifted friend and I will always remember her smile, her laugh, her kindness and especially her faithfulness to her convictions. She will be missed by all who loved her on this earth but God is rejoicing because she fulfilled her God given purpose on this earth …to reflect HIM in all her hand found to do.
Soon and very soon we will all be together rejoicing before the throne.
Love you my dear friend,

Carol LaConte - Friend

March 11, 2022, 4:36 pm

Dear Joanna,
Joe and I are so very sorry to hear of the loss your Mom. I wish we could have met her, I know you are just like her, full of life and love. May she sleep with the Angles.
Carol & Joe LaConte

Nancy Savastano and Mike Mones - Friend and Neighbor

March 13, 2022, 10:23 pm

Mike and I send our heartfelt condolences to Roy, Joanna, Victoria, Alex and the entire Haje family and extended family as we all mourn the loss of our beloved Carole. I, too, will miss my kind, thoughtful, smart, fun-loving, brave, dependable, devoted friend and neighbor and will treasure the memories of all the great times we had together. Carole was my beach buddy, and we enjoyed so many summer days at Southampton’s Flying Point Beach just gabbing, exchanging recipes, collecting shells, and walking to the Sea Puss. Carole, who was always such a good planner, would organize our visits to all the weekly art gallery and receptions where we not only enjoyed the art, but delighted in the complimentary wine and hors d’oeuvres! I’ll remember her wonderful smile and how she loved to laugh—especially after a few of my blood orange martinis! Rest in peace, my dear friend, and may God bring comfort to all those who knew and loved her.

Jim & Arleen Swanson - Joanna’s husband Paul’s mom and dad

March 16, 2022, 1:56 pm

Jim and I send our sympathy and condolences to Roy, Joanna, Victoria, Alex and their families at this time of Carole’s passing. We will reminder her radiant smile and laughter as she expressed her love of life. Her meticulous planning of events to detail was an admirable trait of hers. We thoroughly enjoyed all of the Haje /Swanson gatherings that involved much laughter, the sharing of stories and good food. May Carole Rest In Peace, free from pain and suffering and blessed be her memory.

Joan D. McGinn - Sister

March 17, 2022, 6:40 pm

My sister Carole was an example of goodness and kindness in this world. She was a loving wife and helpmate to her husband Roy and a devoted mother to her children Edward, Joanna, Victoria and Alexander.
She led her life as a true Christian. Her many friends, including several lifelong friendships, testify to her caring spirit. Beside that, she was smart, organized and practical, able to accomplish many things.
I loved my sister dearly. My only regret is not living close to her because I wanted to spend more time
with her. Now, I picture her in heaven holding her firstborn’s hand and looking down wishing us a happy life
until we may join them sometime in the future. ✝️

Lynne Wolff - Friend

March 19, 2022, 4:30 pm

There are no words to express how sorry we were to hear of Carole’s passing. We’d say she fought the good fight, but there was nothing good about it. Through it all, however, she remained a wonderful woman, wife, mother, grandmother, and friend to so many. She will be missed by all. With our deepest sympathy to her loved and loving family,
Al & Lynne Wolff

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